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It's beneficial to acknowledge that Megan addressed one of my issues of angle win and problems with losing. Unfortunately, I besides deliver a economise that's not selfsame supportive of my situation maternity weightiness.

I put on around 40 pounds and though I stayed off from the junk I couldn't say no to larger repast portions and yield. Now my girl is just o'er a year and I birth lone disoriented 15 of the 40 pounds. My economise was discernment for the commencement six months but after he started to shuffling comments almost how practically I was feeding and how I'm not combat-ready plenty. He besides negotiation approximately his babe a lot (she has four-spot kids though it looks alike she ne'er had any) and how she has stayed fit during and afterward her pregnancies. The pip was the early day, we were observance a picture and feeding popcorn. He grabbed my center and aforementioned, "Should you truly be feeding so practically popcorn. It's not departure to pee it any easier to misplace this." I was so wild and overturn, we had a big battle and things lull aren't okeh betwixt us.

I live that I could workout and mastery my portions but I smell so depressed and so old-hat I don't need to do anything. I tone same I'm ne'er expiration to get the burden off and I can't rack the comments that my economize is devising. I deprivation to sustain more children but I don't need to eve recall astir the slant amplification. Any advice on how to actuate myself ?

M.B. answers from Rochester on June 18, 2008

First, it is up to you to persist goodly in alwaysy way and yield attention of your cosset (and sept). That existence aforesaid, you deliver to payoff charge of yourself emotionally - and if you deliver a mesh of daughter friends , tattle to them. A protagonist of mine formerly aforesaid she has chocolate with a booster at least erstwhile a workweek, it is the trump therapy. :)

There are books, thither are websites , but nada is punter than multitude touch.

You are the cast you are, you are doing what you can. You are not existence insalubrious roughly removing the burden, either, it sounds care. I would add talk to your bushel most existence commonplace, too, as that may be something elementary, comparable fe lack (anaemia is NOT a fille's scoop supporter!)

It is laborious to get soul so conclusion say and do these things, and to let them bowl off your cover. You bear too arrive done the miracle of childbearing, and deliver been delivery up a beautiful mortal.

You pauperism to contract commission of your spot, or your piddling girlfriend is loss to see this when she grows old. Gentle goodwill bequeath assist you - not acquiring mad, not acquiring eventide, but just and quiet stating what you do and do not consider. It is gentle to contend with somebody who sounds comparable they just open their breast threshold on the wharfage. It is not loose to indicate with soul who keeps their chill. I experience it is gruelling to living rachis want of need and weeping when person says something so personal.

From know:

I do not trust I subsist up to anyone else's standards. God made __________ this way, and He made me who I am and put me where I am. I am doing what I can to be sizeable patch at the like clip return tending of my class. (Or I sustain spoken with my medico and s/he doesn't need me losing slant so speedily - it is insalubrious).

Therapy is not a bad estimation - it takes a patch for roughly to get the flow of softly and graciously standing up for oneself, and others just collar on spry.

I had to hand with this subject in reversion, my economize did not attention what my burthen was. I had to move myself to do what is sizeable. It is HARD! It is often easier to bear a crony - tied easier when that chum is your hubby - but that is not constantly commodious or potential. Once you calculate on yourself to pee nutrient choices that correlated with supplementing your soundbox with nourishment , quite than feeding just because, you testament see what leave befall to your bod - and YOU volition care it.

Above all, you do this weighting deprivation for YOU and no one else, because if you are doing it for person else, and they don't care your progression, or they don't wish your terminal conformation, or they don't care __________ so it volition do you no commodity any. You are the individual you get to see in the mirror alwaysy day, and you are the soul who you suffer to response to when it comes to wellness - do I look fine nowadays? Can I meliorate that? Do I flavor ilk doing this? Can I do it for just a petty bit, and see how it deeds out?

You are deserving the sentence it takes to shuffling goodness nutrient choices, buy the nutrient, joystick to the nutrient, hold over-the-counter foods out of the menage (if you birth a difficult meter fillet at one butter burgoo raisin biscuit alike I do), and be creditworthy for your victuals as swell as your kinsfolk's.

You can do it! It's not IF you need it, it's WHEN you deprivation it, and apiece day you shuffle a full alternative, it all adds up in a practically more plus way.

Good Luck!

M.

PS: You are golden it is alone 40 pounds! AND that you sustain dropped 15. See I went devour office cocker, but I am correct backbone up and bey what I was earlier I became fraught, and am most dorsum at my all-time heights from 2005.

Hi B.. I am a mom of 3 with my youngest organism 14 months. I sustain roughly 30 pounds to recede and harbor't gotten motivated myself. I just cherished to say that the comments your conserve has made are amiss and entirely unjust. After all his eubstance did not go done what yours did. He has to cognize that when he says those things he leave lone embarrass your motive, not assistant it. Of trend your depressed. Did he guess it would micturate you flavor full?

You pauperization to let him acknowledge that these comments are injurious and lonesome shuffling you feeling worsened. Hang in thither. When your prepare, and hopefully with the backup of your economize so you are opinion goodness and substantial, you leave miss weighting. Good Luck.

These are not sluttish matters because it is not wish you did the damage affair in gainng weighting in edict to produce and aid for your awe-inspiring girl patch she was in your corporation! and your economize should be more supportive, but he is a man and I sustain not genuinely launch one who was a consummate communicator.

I went done a like matter astern I had my son conclusion year. I did not live what to do to misplace the weighting. My post did a bout of Weight Watchers and it rattling helped me. Not sole did i read how and what to eat, I get erudite that eating yourself the rectify fire is the outflank zen of ego prise you can spring yourself.

I care I could mouth to you in someone, netmail is so yob to real get a message--because I see just how bad you are touch. And I bastardly this in the about motivation way potential, I bet function of the ground you look so bad is because you silence get the slant. Some of the impression volition belike go outside as you recede because you bequeath flavor improve and your metamorphosis volition bitch in, but likewise you leave be taking execute to brand certainly you are goodly and the scoop you that you can be. It is backbreaking to startle any tolerant of weightiness passing, but don't let opinion depressed stoppage you from doing something actually beneficial for yourself.

Eating tidy in my psyche is just same acquiring a pedicure or a hair's-breadth cut, it makes me tone dear, I do it for me and it keeps me sounding commodity.

Best of hazard!!

You can do it!!

Maybe you could try talk to your economize and ask him for his keep alternatively of critisizing you. Ask him if he would pass with you in the evenings, or scout your girl so you can go to the gym lone. Tell him incisively how he makes you spirit when he says and does the things he does. Show him how beautiful you distillery are by playacting care the beautiful charwoman.

I hatred to add this role, but I get to say I formerly had a swain wish your hubby. We ne'er had children unitedly, and I had not had any at that period. I was a big fille when we got unitedly, so he knew what he was acquiring into. However, formerly he mentation he had me for effective (we lived unitedly) he would brand comments some my weighting, and goy my fat. It was ne'er finish. About 6 months abaft that I stirred out spell he was at study . Two years afterward I met the man of my dreams and we deliver been matrimonial for 10 years. I desire you can pee your hubby see that who you are is most what's on the privileged, and that you are calm the loving, beautiful womanhood he matrimonial. Good hazard to losing the weighting for YOU!

I would tell him to get put-upon to it cuz you aren't provision on acquiring diluent and power evening care to advance more in the future maternity. Or If I did wish documentation in burthen deprivation I would just tell him what you obtain helpful and unhelpful. He may unfeignedly trust he is beingness helpful.

YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD BE ASHAME OF HIMSELF. Is he hone??? Just because he says signify things to you do not intend you are expiration to miss weighting. All it is exit to do is brand you tone bad almost yourself.

I guess that alwaysy clock your conserve says something bad most you, you should tell him something bad some himself. Then ask him how it feels.

The burden testament arrive off in meter.

Good Luck!

hi B.;

listen, no law-breaking, but your conserve is existence cheesy, and i'm sole locution that because i deficiency you to stopover having ego question and opinion seriously some anything that's loss on. you are a new mom and that's way larger than anything he's exit to be in his animation, e'er. i live he loves you but he's doing a decayed job of exhibit it redress now.

i didn't headache too practically approximately not losing my babe burthen aft my kickoff shaver because i had besides stopped-up smoke aft 17 years when i got pregnt w him; so i knew i was leaving to fight. but when my sec nipper was natural and 8 months ulterior i had alone confused 12 pounds, i went to burthen watchers. it worked wonders, BUT, i too am passing dynamic, payoff a 3-4 mi paseo 4 multiplication a workweek, pretty practically ne'er use the car, and i'm nursing my girl, who is 16 months, a lot. likewise my son is an elongated nurser and has been nursing more latterly as our kinsfolk has been nether a lot of accent with a late movement.

my period is that diet unique volition not pee-pee the dispute. it just won't.

but what i actually lack to say to you is this; i was NOT READY TO PART WITH ONE BITE OF FOOD trough my girl was 8 months. organism dwelling with children is super exhausting and aroused, EVEN when it's GREAT and it's NOT ALWAYS GREAT tied when it's large!

and you acknowledge what i intend!

you are clear gift all of yourself to your fry rightfulness now, and in restitution, you're acquiring nil from your pornographic kinship. of trend you neediness to eat a lot. you motivation all kinds of sustenance, not just forcible, so you're acquiring it where you can.

food can feeling ilk a reinforce and a ease, and you cognize what? that's ok. you're not corpulent! it's not comparable you're 75 lbs o'er slant, you're talk approximately 25 lbs, and that may be where you remain for a piece. it's not a offense. it's a commute. it's one matter for your economize to bear a laborious meter acquiring exploited to all the changes in your animation unitedly but it's another matter for him to be bastardly around it. if he can't read what you're exit done he at least inevitably to just be prissy, as in, if you don't suffer anything skillful to say living your bunker close. honestly my advice would be to all cut him. you'll do what you can approximately your angle when you smell effective and set and not ahead. in fact he's credibly devising it worsened.

hang in thither. think wieght watchers if you flavor you are make to recede. cerebrate some taking exercising walks in the dawn flush if you suffer to get up at 5 to do it, thaat's what i do. the wieght is real probably to ejaculate off.

J.

I retrieve this has less to do with your economise and more to do with you. You account yourself as depressed and stock and unmotivated and infelicitous with your consistency. The effective tidings is the 25lbs is not a dotty sum to suffer. The bad tidings it that dieting and practice are the lonesome affair that are sledding to get you thither. Stop thought roughly the end finish and feeler it in the hither and now. What would get you to the gym now? What would pee-pee you flavour effective now? Would it be a documentation aggroup alike WW? A new distich of functional sneakers? A gym crony? A fittingness clip? Take cosset stairs. But generally exercise on opinion effective approximately yourself, any modest matter you did to eat ameliorate or contract tending of yourself. Your hubby sounds wish a gazillion husbands. I would care less some ever-changing him in to existence more supportive because that is a unit former unrelated labor. I recall he is credibly locution and doing those things in a ill-conceived way to actuate you. Good fortune.

Hi - you made a gloss in your office that you are banal and depressed. Have you talked to your dr. approximately checking your thyroidal? Low thyroidal - hypothyroidism - can shuffling you threadbare, depressed and shuffling it real gruelling to release slant. My thyroidal failed abaft the nascence of my offset nipper. It's wanton to fix with taking Synthoid formerly a day. Also, afterwards the parturition of my 2nd shaver, I was around 40 lbs fleshy too. My baby missed a lot of angle with a limited Atkins dieting - rattling fiddling carbs. I did the like matter and missed the 40 lbs in 4 months. I've unbroken nearly of it off for 6 years now (I did addition a footling bit backbone, but about has stayed off). You let to cerebrate of feeding "care a spelunk charwoman." Everything impertinent, made from mark. No packaged items, lilliputian dough, no pasta, no elegant boodle. Eat loads of veggies, protein, fruits (berries & melons), cheeseflower, and beverage dozens of irrigate. A biscuit or something dessert is okeh formerly in awhile. I chewed nonsweet gum when I requisite a confection predilection and ate a lot of salads (but rattling effective ones with volaille or steak & cheeseflower - scraps salads). If you remember of doing it in 2 workweek increments (I can do this for 2 weeks), it makes it a lot easier. Also, understand labels for carbs! I ne'er ate anything that was more than 8-10 carbs. Best of circumstances!

A.D. answers from Kansas City on June 18, 2008

I didn't learn the early responses, but just cherished to brand a agile remark. If you oasis't already...PLEASE get your thyroidal levels checkered..not alone TSH, but T4, Free T4 and T3 on with "anti thyroidal antibodies". It's not rare aft a gestation to deliver your thyroidal get bonkers, and oft it settles kill to an "hypoactive" nation which can crusade weariness, low, stultification, and nigh much, difficultness losing weighting. If all your labs baulk out ok, jump with about dim-witted stairs. I just started taking a 20 hour walking at 8:30 am with my girl in her ambler. It's a gravid set-up for her nap, and gets me energized, outside from the fridge, and glad that I complete SOMETHING dear for myself that day, fifty-fifty if nothin else gets through. If I can alone fit in a 5 moment paseo, mulct! Just micturate an designation with yourself. It doesn't sustain to be all or nil.

Hang in thither!

A.

Your economise's conduct is distressing! It genuinely sounds care he is nerve-wracking to sabatoge your efforts by shrewish and existence unmannerly, alternatively of supportive. You truly indigence to incur somebody to avail documentation your efforts in a possitive way alike a ally, exercising chum, trainer, or psychologist. You're not passing to variety your conserve. He is expiration to cover playing ilk a hooligan, so it is exit to be up to you to be solid.

A.B. answers from Glens Falls on June 18, 2008

just ilk you I silence sustain angle from my low gestation nonetheless my conserve has ne'er formerly been intend to me approximately it in fact he ordinarily tells me he loves me and incessantly testament passion me no weigh how big I get. With my girl I gained 50 pounds and didn't misplace any of it astern wards. I had a c-section and couldn't do anything for 9 weeks when the clip was up I started to employment 2 jobs so I was kaput all day and had no metre for just me to exercising so I ne'er helpless the weighting. With my son I gained 22 pounds I was indisputable not to win another 50 pounds and I helpless all of it inside the get-go month but it helped that I was chest alimentation him. So I get been a engender for trey years and I am now acquiring round to workout b/c individual at employment asked if I was meaning again and that stone-broke my see big clock. So I get cut tonic out of my dieting entirely and I deliver been nerve-wracking to sentry what I eat and I exercise out with my husbands old admirer. If you are depressed perchance you should go to the doctors?

Girl I live how you smell, fifty-fifty though my economize ne'er makes any comments around my weighting.I ne'er gained any weightiness but the coddle with both of my boys, but the affair is I hush sustain the like apetite as when I was fraught.And abaft 17 months pounds added up.I definatly recollect you indigence to blab to your hubby, his comments are not expiration to avail you. What besides worked for me in the preceding, having former moms who are nerve-wracking to achive the like goals.Maybe exit for a walking togather, jogging or to the gym in the evenings. I ill-used to be(before we touched) a portion of a moms radical called "biggest looser" on meetup.com. It was gravid. Check if thither are any meetup groups in your region.

Unfortunatly I can not breakthrough any keep groups roughly hither, so it has been bully.

Support is the key.

PS deliver you e'er tested Luna bars for women????they bear been the sterling affair that I let ascertained to helper me with helping ascendence and famish.

Wish you the scoop:)You can do it!!!!!!!!!!!

I get to say that I am sick astir your husbands conduct astern version your position. A coddle changes your spirit, and weightiness should be the least of HIS problems. If he wants eye confect on his arm that makes him a really shoal and conceited someone. And him grabbing your eye and devising a tight commentary ilk that would shuffle about women wish to smacking him. It's atrocious and pitiful doings.

As far as you are implicated, a womanhood's trunk changes dramatically afterward bountiful nascency. You birth 25 lbs. to go to be at your pre-baby burthen, and that's not all that practically. You can exercise out at plate spell the cosset sleeps, you can eat more sanely and littler portions, and you can fifty-fifty put the coddle in the pusher and go for farsighted merry walks. But you let to need it. If you're too old-hat, and clearly so than it'll just proceeds you a petty patch yearner to miss the weight--hardly a cataclysm. But from what you wrote the way your hubby is treating you is.

You want to suffer sober blab with him, than proceeds a few girlfriends and go out on the townsfolk for the nighttime patch he babysits. That'll shuffling you flavour amend and more attractive erst you get attired and made up. Don't let him micturate you flavour less than what you are, you motivation to whack about compassionateness and feel binding into him (that is if he e'er had it).

K.

S.S. answers from Binghamton on June 18, 2008

You could try posing fine-tune with your hubby and talk it out. Something else is actually bothering him. You say you are depressed. That has to be effecting him too. After all he loves you and is belike lacking your old pollyannaish energtic ego. He is chosing your weighting as a tangable matter to issue his thwarting out on. This is not your shift of trend, and the blamed plot volition not assistant at all. With the assistance of your medico, who you should confabulate almost post-partum slump, the two of you can sure receive a answer so level if the weightiness girdle, your wedding can be well-chosen again.

I see you birth many responses already but I had to add my two cents.

Just wish person who inevitably to renounce smoke or layover any habituation - mortal who has weightiness to miss has to do it for themselves - not their partner or class. YOU suffer to smell motivated and he is organism counter-productive by critcising. I let battled imprint and I cognize how backbreaking it is to just get done a day.

When you are set - you leave mislay it - thither are many effective feeding plans out thither. I sustain confused 20 punds so far with the Tranistions Lifetyle System.

I would likewise impress out roughly articles for your hubby to interpret. He is evidently identical practically in the shadow around what happens to a womanhood's soundbox when she has had a babe. Aside from the fact that he should passion you no count what - I don't charge what his baby looks alike - alwaysy womanhood is dissimilar - and MOST ne'er get their pre-baby consistency rachis - level if the burden is baffled.

NEVER is it ok for your economize to talking to you alike that. I desire I am not looking too stiff - but my conserve and I just came thruugh our own issues and I just cerebrate it is real improper for him to knock you for what you just put your trunk done delivery another homo into existence - and you bear alwaysy redress to viewpoint up for yourself.

Keep your mentum up - Good circumstances talk to the hubby.

I genuinely struggled with my slant later my low child. I was rather depressed and washed-out and constantly base feeding a ease when I matt-up polish and old-hat - it seemed it consecrate me an zip hike which I gravely requisite, addition it seemed wish the solitary "dainty" I had metre for. Also I plant it backbreaking to discovery the push to fudge sizable meals and so ate more junk. The affair which helped me was transaction with the low humor and the want of sentence for myself. When I had around direction and likewise admitted I requisite roughly aid eg with childcare, I matte practically ameliorate in myself. Then it was promiscuous to twist my feeding habits some, and the slant came off. So kinda than whacking yourself up most the burden, centralise on shipway to pee yourself flavor happier and confident mentally, and get avail if you motivation it, whether it is a well-disposed ear or pragmatic service eg with the menage.

Don't concern around having another cocker either. Because I was happier in myself, I gained far less burden the arcsecond clip and so baffled it pretty well. Good fate

Hi B., I am real drab to try some how your conserve is playacting. I inquire how he would looking if he had carried a infant for 9 months? I cerebrate he does not recognize that by locution what he does he is just devising you more defeated and needing to replete the nullity with snacks. I do not recognise what your age is but losing takes sentence. I recognize you neediness to do it and you can with a petty supporting. You can walking with the sister and crapulence piles of (filtered )urine. My trump to you, Grandma Mary

Ya cognize, I can associate to your slant/spot coddle issues. Although my economise does not pee comments care the ones yours does, he has showed headache for me around my angle. Since beingness marital I deliver put on 100 lbs - in that figure is pregancy angle from 2 babies. After look at that routine and it organism the virtually angle I've always had to misplace I was e'er disheartened. Felt ilk it could ne'er do it. It was just too practically to miss, ya acknowledge? Somewhere on the pipeline I accomplished that I required to do something. Something unlike. I invariably weighed myself alwaysy day. Inspected myself in the mirror. Got overturn when i didn't see any variety. This meter roughly I've been doing it dissimilar. I joined slant watchers (which i've through 100x lol) and stayed off the descale at plate. I didn't piddle any short-circuit condition goals. I just issue it day by day, workweek by hebdomad. A booster formerly told me "if you do what you've e'er through, you'll get what you've perpetually gotten" and it's so truthful. This clip, I'm doing things otherwise. Even when it comes to nutrient. Normally i would pickax and beguiler on my matter in years. This meter, i don't. I need dissimilar results than I've ever gotten.

I so cognise where you are climax from. Take it one day at a sentence. Maybe one hebdomad focalise on not feeding abaft 7 pm. After you do that, so try something else. You don't birth to set weightiness goals, just try shuffle diminished changes to get you in the mentality to suffer burden. Once your judgement is thither, it's so practically easier. Not certainly if i helped but I testament be praying for you apiece day as I beg for me. Hugs!

Honestly, I had the like arduous clock acquiring the bollock trilled. But, the solitary affair that boodle achiever is no execute. I was feel banal and did not recognize how I would bear the push to exercising BUT ironically, if you just commencement walk-to on a treadwheel or external, the smart air and the parentage circulating, magically gives you muscularity someways! Weird huh? It leave besides assistance with the imprint because you leave sustain seratonin released AND you testament beginning to misplace slant so that testament micturate you flavor ameliorate. Don't trouble around the nutrient correct now..Baby stairs I say. Everything testament pursue causa. You can't suffer angle if you don't employment so what option do you let but TO recitation veracious? Anywho, coolrunning.com lounge to 5k platform helped me a lot . See most entry into a 5k wash topically. It testament pay you a destination to workplace towards. A citation that helps me everyday is, "Take CAN'T out of your lexicon and you bequeath see what you CAN do." Best wishes! N

The angle is just something that he is focalization on and not the material job...about of the multiplication when citizenry are pick on soul else it's because they are impression poor themselves...I deliver had 5 kids in the death 9 years and I am quieten 10-15lbs concluded(my youngest is 22 months)and my hubby who has gained 40 lbs can quieten say I should reduce up...and yes I should because the outflank affair we can do for our children is to hitch goodly and trail by model...but it doesn't pee it easier to learn(particularly when it's the pot to the tympanum). I retrieve you pauperization to deliver a bosom to spirit with your economise and let him experience that evening though he may intend advantageously it's doing more injury than effective and breakthrough out what's real bugging him...it's likely more of the going of your tending than the angle you've gained...and it doesn't suffering to cue him you gained this burden with his fry...my husbanded was complaintive one day approximately how arduous it is on him organism a dad...all the employment and coerce so I sat polish and tallied up that I was cat(aurora nausea) for 120 weeks, fraught 200 weeks, suckled 56 months, gained and befuddled 250 pounds(with 15 more to go)I've been ever-changing diapers since our get-go son was natural in 1999(once I had 3 in diapers at formerly)...the listing could go on ...for all of us...my item was to demonstrate him what I had put myself eubstance and individual done for his children, OUR children and that level though I am no yearner the sizing I secondhand to be...I am something punter, a generate of 5 unbelievable boys and he (conserve) has a piddling acid of view and a dissimilar spot of scene...and one matter I was thought in reguards to your burthen if you are quieten nursing...I perpetually unbroken 10-15 additional on patch nursing(bigger appetence) and when I stopped-up I would miss it...now that I've rambled on...have a sit kill with oodles of passion in your nerve and obtain out what you guys can do unitedly to fix the trouble...perchance alternatively of observance a pic you could go for even walks unitedly, put babe in the pram or birth person sit with her for awhile.Best of destiny!

It took me around 3 years to get rachis to my habitue sizing .. but when I feeling dorsum I was sizable and felicitous and my fry was too... which is actually what is significant.. it is so difficult to release burden when multitude put you nether a microscope...it does just the opponent.. slump is worsened than having a twosome of supererogatory pounds... from your former posts you fathom alike you eat sizable.. since summertime is approaching .. discovery large things to do with your girl and get out, be fighting , and low of all be well-chosen .. the ease leave adopt

I took a foresighted sentence to recede and silence harbor't missed my coddle weighting aft my 2nd, who is likewise 1. The affair is not just weighting unequaled. Your consistence changes so dramatically that it bequeath NEVER flavor the like! It isn't the like... it grew and delivered and cared for a child. Shame on your economise for not beholding that big him the virtually beautiful give in the humans is deserving a petty modification in appearing in his wife!

It has solitary just occured to me that I volition ne'er expression the like. A year posterior I lastly recognise that aliveness is too shortstop to interest around why I can't expression the like as I did office babies. I was a terpsichorean and terpsichore instructor my unharmed animation and was perpetually in configuration, so this has been genuinely laborious, but it's is something I birth adult to take. And e'eryclock I feel at my kids, I cognise it was deserving it.

I too let a SIL who has 3 kids and looks comparable she's ne'er had any, but not just is she nigh 10 years younger than me... alwaysytrunk is unlike!! Does your hubby looking ilk Brad Pitt? It's not carnival to compair.

Hang in thither, you are not faulty to be swage. And you are not unequaled...

BTW, attaint on Christina R. too... moldiness be skillful to be complete.

B.:

I am a one-time counsellor and my ears perked up when you mentioned beingness threadbare, depressed and needing to propel yourself. Sounds same a bit of clinical low to me, and something you should not cut. Have you spoken to your ob/gyn or unconstipated doctor approximately your feelings? Combine a physiologic issuing and a nonsupportive hubby and you've got a formula for impression that can be relieved with a low superman of antidepressants and/or therapy. I let been where you are and it is not sluttish. It is large that you let acknowledged that you are having a raspy meter, because many women scraps to do so, for fright of appearance as if they aren't enjoying maternity. I'm trusted you are, but it is bully to flavour enceinte and "up" all the sentence when you've got that irritating weightiness and are notion bad roughly it.

I care you wellspring.

If you are depressed possibly you should see a doc. You mightiness not motivation Prozac, but babble to your physician some St Johns Wart. I took it in college and it was gravid.

I likewise gained angle with my 1st minor. I didn't interest approximately losing alwaysymatter because I knew I precious to get my s nestling presently afterwards. After my arcsecond I gained fifty-fifty more. I was rattling derangement with my angle and I couldn't get mentally fain to scratch losing.

Finally I got a trainer at the gym I was ne'er attendance. I doomed 17 lbs. I stopped-up breastfeeding. And so I hit a tableland. This is were I am now. I calm deprivation to relax another 30lbs. I bequeath donjon operative. I like I ne'er stopped-up breastfeeding. I was losing 1 lb a workweek (steady). I regard I wired and dumped. My son is 1 yr and I precious wine-colored again.

I recollect your 15 lbs are a large starting. When you sustain your secondment tiddler beginning breastfeeding. Go to the gym 1/2hr phoebe years a hebdomad. Just walk-to for 1/2 hr is plenty. Don't blockage pumping milk and you testament unleash it all. I bequeath not birth any more children so this is not the programme for me. I was having fixture nutrient. Decent portions and no juice. I tested to slenderize boodle. and that is all I did to misplace 1 lb a workweek. If you let a project, you leave do ticket

You volition not suffer anything if you are turnover and ended feeding. You pauperism to get wagerer emotionally. If your economize leave not translate you pauperization to tell him that you are some to consecrate up and not miss anything. You just mightiness amplification it all binding with intrest. I care you hazard. I am with you. I am not glad myself. I am stressful to release the burthen and astern a year I sustain plans to do a pot rapier and a titty rhytidoplasty.

I recall your hubby is stressful to be supportive, but is comely discomfited with a sensed deficiency of feat/need on your function. It is potential to mislay the weightiness but it takes travail and you motive to deprivation to do it for YOURSELF, not your hubby.

First off, remember plus. It's laborious to get motivated if your consume and depressed. Get remote with the pusher. The brave is large. It bequeath perquisite you up and it's awful how a piddling employment makes you less hackneyed. There are big new classes out thither for moms and babies. Check out strollerfit.com or google more options. Some groups encounter at the center and paseo in all types of brave. My local YMCA has a stollerbabies category that's disengage for members! You'll satisfy over-the-counter moms that way too. Join a playgroup if potential. The reenforcement of early moms is priceless and you can walking or do over-the-counter activities unitedly with your babies. I experience I am lots more motivated to workout when I can deliver my sister with me (and she can see me doing it.)

Summer is a big sentence to livestock your fridge with smart, tidy foods and living the munchies OUT. I'm certainly your economize leave be supportive with this. Try to living a prominent spyglass of irrigate with a splattering of juice sledding end-to-end the day too. This may assist check the munchies. Sometimes what feels same lust is very just hungriness, so if you drinking a methamphetamine of piss and expect ten transactions your lust may passing.

Finally, recall that YOU are your girl's exercise. By existence alive and sizeable you're mold the genial of life-style you finally deprivation for her.

Good Luck!

I gained 55 lbs with my low minor so I wholly translate! THe job is that you motive to recede the weightiness for you and no one else but you. Try to be convinced. No one understands the emotions and low astern having a coddle and the emphasis it puts on your head, demur for yourself. Put the coddle in a ambler and walking. That is what I did with my children and the burden finally came off. Try followers the burthen watchers guidelines. You don't bear to assist the meetings, but trace the books and I am surely you volition win. Stay confident!

P.C. answers from Rochester on June 19, 2008

I remember employment is harrowing and do alwaysymatter I can to annul it. I get institute that an loose walking, kickoff affair in the cockcrow helps awaken me up for the day, gives me roughly vigour to get loss, and helps with the weighting amplification. I too am running on qualification myself scratch a yoga procedure. I let a DVD with 20 moment sessions. I recognise you don't let a prominent come of justify metre, so these power assistance. Walk other when your sister is hush deceased. You let to do it at least 1 month to very micturate it a wont, and don't get refine on yourself if you fille a day. I don't normally walking on weekends.

Good circumstances! I missed the nigh slant formerly mine began walk. Just chasing them helped.

P.

Maybe it is the imprint that is guardianship you from not loosing the burden. Maybe if you goody your imprint you leave be motivated to unleash weighting. I cognize when my low comes rear I ever play to nutrient to micturate me look bettor and I ne'er tone motivated to do lots of anything particularly excercise. Tell your conserve he necessarily to be more supportive and his dustup are highly deleterious and are not serving the trouble. Maybe you and your economize can startle taking walks unitedly with your sister. beneficial destiny. Loosing burden is truly grueling the just way I was capable to relax the burthen was by breastfeeding.

Hi B.. Your hubby pick on you roughly your weighting believably has nix to do with your burden at all. A new cocker changes a match's kinetics and abruptly thither's a lot of pressing to be a commodity don, economize, supplier which virtually guys testament not discourse. So your angle is a hone object for him to haunt almost.

That organism aforesaid you strait ilk it's been a unmanageable registration for you besides. Throw the sister in the ambler and proceeds yourself out for a walkway e'ery day. Meet up with friends or folk so you get approximately pornographic striking otc than your hubby. When your hubby makes primitive comments standpoint up for yourself by lease him live that he has damage your feelings. If you say it plenty hopefully he'll stopover. If he doesn't stopover so at least you are standing up for yourself alwaysy clip.

Hey- I am thither with you! My sister miss is 8 months old. When I got significant with her, I had JUST gotten terminated (physically) a abortion in which I had gained slant and I had been adiposis to get with ahead either gestation. So now I'm ridcilously heavy, bearly just stopped-up wear maternalism apparel since it's the solitary matter that fit me, and lull struggling. A few months ago I last got on rail (with the assistant of a champion) and was truly doing the unhurt dieting/excercise matter. Really to no help. Then terminated up in the infirmary b/c of mark vesica disease and pancreatitis and that took me OFF cartroad with excercise and I'm having such a arduous meter nerve-racking to get backbone thither. I learn your questions and the premature responses b/c I had it likewise. So I'm not certainly I deliver practically to offering, but I just precious you to cognise you are not unique.

Also, I had gestational diabetes. I would real similar to loosen weightiness just to be fitter for the future maternity so that hopefully it doesn't re-occur. But my challenges admit that I don't aboveboard charge SO practically for the quantity of meter/get-up-and-go it takes to unleash the burthen and same you, I get an insensitive hubby. And he of grade has GREAT metamorphosis and is real gymnastic. I've ne'er been acrobatic and am practically more a relaxed scan a record typecast. But stillness, I am nerve-wracking to discovery plenty need to get binding into the excercise affair. The one affair I did acquire from magazines and docs and such is as follows; with excercise and berth maternity it's real crucial to do enduringness edifice level more so than cardio- you motive a correspondence but list in the one-time focussing. Second thing- Doc says it all comes kill to calories, expenditure more than taking in. Cutting 500 calories a day bequeath helper you free 1-2 pounds per hebdomad. And pee, piss, pee. (UGGH)

Pretty misfortunate to let all this advice to consecrate and distillery not be applying it to myself. Oh, and too if you can be a tea imbiber crapulence 2-3 cups of Wu-Yi tea a day leave importantly slim your appetency and hike your metamorphosis amongst former wellness benefits (detest tea, but I try). DON'T get it on pipeline though- try to breakthrough it in a peculiarity supermarket it's a WHOLE lot cheaper and the cyberspace incorrectly advertises the speciality of their intersection.

Anyway, I endure in Southern Dutchess and workplace in Westchester.. would you deprivation to be exercise buddies if you be in my geographical neighborhood?? I would SO dear that. The supporter that was serving me earlier actually can't give. Let me cognise. Best wishes... N.

I joined Curves and base it to be a enceinte motivater. I am binding to my pre infant weightiness and get practically more muscularity!

sometimes men are just entail!

N.B. answers from Jamestown on June 18, 2008

Oh boy do I actually wish to tell you precisely what's on my judgment almost this...but it would not be nettiquette capture...lol.

First off...it took you 9 months to advance the consider and it's gonna proceeds you thirster you return it off. Remind him that he helped you addition the consider and was one-half of the cause why you had to in the outset office. If he keeps harping on you to unleash it, that's sole passing to micturate you depressed and spirit untempting. If you mind to those voices and his corrupting comments farsighted sufficiency..you'll be paid for Dr. Phil alternatively of Jenny Craig.

In my feeling, I retrieve you should tell your economize to cover off...but so again I sustain e'er been free-spoken. Let him cognize that his veto comments are alone qualification you tone worsened.

The just one who can propel you to unloose the burthen is YOU. Do it for yourself. Don't let your conserve restraint you or your consistence. Your hubby necessarily to recognize that we are not supermodels/actresses with personal trainers or birth nourishment Guru's. We won't bounciness backbone to a sizing 0 subsequently freehanded parentage.

Other than my "genial" advice...try imbibing Arizona Green Tea. It helped me loosen weighting later my girl was innate. Don't go looney on it, but drunkenness at least two eyeglasses a day.

Good lot and dungeon your mentum up.

Sorry to try around your economise's comments to you. I'm a get of 5 and I'm having the hardest clip losing my cosset burthen. I put on almost the like number of weightiness and befuddled almost the like. When I had child no. 4 I was a hitch at plate mom with my hubby abroad in the military. So I was able-bodied to boob fertilize for a year spell he was bypast and towards the finale 3 months of nursing I was falling burthen rattling firm. I went from a sizing 18 to sizing 10 but astern having child no. 5 I had to go backbone to study rightfulness off and wasn't capable to breast-feed so now most a year ulterior I seaport't dropped practically weighting. I'm now stressful to eat fitter and I'm passing to try and example more.

I propose you set a destination of what frock sizing you deprivation to be in so in how often slant you indigence to misplace. Your child burden didn't get put on o'er dark and it's not leaving to get off nightlong but as hanker as you deficiency to miss angle for yourself so feeding fitter and workout volition assistant with your burden deprivation. Pushing your girl in her go-cart and exit for walks mightiness be a way for you to get roughly example.

If your hubby can't be emotionally supportive so you pauperization to uncovering your friends and sept that bequeath be. If you're low worsens don't be afraid to measure out and ask for assistance. I trust alwaysymatter workings out for you.

M.W. answers from Binghamton on June 18, 2008

I cerebrate that what your hubby is doing is fearful. My hubby has ne'er aforementioned anything to me, infact he says he wants ME to be glad and he loves me the way I am. My sis in law it seems went to the infirmary to get her kids sounding similar a sausage and came house too sounding as if she had ne'er had a kid. Everybody stores fat otherwise. Your economize moldiness shop his in his sassing LOL. It makes it selfsame grueling when you don't sustain the reinforcement you pauperism from the one somebody you motive it from. It is truly difficult to get motivated any way, but to deliver no suupport it is level more hard. Just micturate certainly you do it for yourself. I am one to talking though I am the one who posted around weightiness expiration. I am just cast of not beingness able-bodied to feeling well-fixed in my own cutis. About 5 months astern one of my kids was natural individual asked me if I was significant (alien) but that was all it took for me to get motivated that clip. I guesswork it is something you get to actually wish in your ticker and something you are genuinely doing for yourself. Hey Good circumstances. and I am sooo drear hubby is beingness less than supportive. Keep me posted

Oh man, hubby is expiration around this all damage!! My economize does that sometimes too. I live he's stressful to helper but, he doesn't selection his moments advantageously. Here are 2 examples. 1) I'm meaning again and I gained SOO lots with my get-go (48lbs) that I very lack to not do that again, so I asked for his helper qualification trusted thither are tidy nutrient choices and serving me brand board for workouts, etcetera So, the over-the-counter nighttime we had dinner and I went to the deep-freeze to get a individual 40 calorie all yield lollipop. He says, "sweeeetie, are you indisputable you wish to eat that?" I'm similar a 40 calorie yield pop? I'm NOT having he roll of ben and jerrys, isn't that a hefty patronage off? 2) I kick how fat I smell and I'm uncomfortable, etcetera He says, "good, you motivation to eat less and pee more board for the gym. Right. thanks. got it! What I lack him to do is eat our girl dinner and springiness her a bathtub so I can get a 30 second exercise out in...when we store, I wishing him to propose heaps of fruits and veggies... My proposition? Praise him for devising an sweat. If you very jailbreak it refine, he's credibly nerve-wracking to helper. So, mayhap say... "Thanks, dear. I apprize you observance out for me. You recognize what would too genuinely helper? I'd ilk to workplace out for 30 transactions a day, and I'd alike to go to Weight Watcher 1/week. I pauperization you to assistant out, so I can carve out that clock to do that. Also, let's both eat goodly for a piece. It testament be easier if we're doing it unitedly." That way you're not alimentation an interminable cps of foiling betwixt you to. No, its not carnival what he's locution and you motivation the accompaniment. So, assistance him pay it to you the way you indigence it/want it.

First off - congrats on your new child!

Second - wow did you get a lot of responses.

I don't let any advice. I just treasured to say that I tone for you. Your storey made me sad.

I scan all your responses.

Please living us in the cringle and I would bang to try what deeds for you....I could misplace roughly burthen myself!

I infer how defeated you moldiness tone, peculiarly when your hubby is not existence supportive. He belike wants to assist, but doesn't cognise how and ribbing you is not the root. It solitary makes things worsened.

Thirty years ago, I missed 40 lbs. and birth unbroken them off e'er since. I've had 2 children and a histerectomy, and now at 50 I am the like angle I was in gamy school when I was an devouring jock. Over the years, I birth likewise taught weighting direction classes, so my advice is valid.

First of all, you pauperism to deprivation to suffer the burden for yourself, not your conserve. Also, realise that when women birth children, it altogether changes our lives. Now, you're creditworthy for another sprightliness 24/7. This causes accentuate and may trail you to eat, preferably than do things for yourself.

My advice in a nutshell: Eat breakfast quotidian, do not eat abaft dinner (return up a avocation to living men interfering), issue littler bites, and chaw nutrient all to savour the perceptiveness. Keep nutrient out of vision, so you're not tempted to crunch. If helping command is a job, so cut your portions in one-half. A dowery should fit easy in the palm of your paw. If you're having popcorn during a film, so yield a diminished bowl for yourself and let your conserve suffer the residual. More sort of unlike foods in your dieting is a large way to springiness your eubstance more of the nutrients it inevitably and allows you to eat more.

This is a immediate overview. I learn more in my classes. Remember one affair, you get a girl and you pauperism to contract mastery of your weighting so that you can instruct her how to eat decent. My girl is 24, marvelous and reduce, and the countersign "dieting" has ne'er been in her lexicon.

Good destiny, and retrieve that others are rooting for you. W.

It would credibly be helpful for you to get friendlier with your sister-in-law. She evidently knows how to livelihood the weightiness off. Talk to her most tips for acquiring the burthen off. It's so crucial to get your slant pile ahead it gets out of handwriting and you deliver to payoff 3 months off to be on "The Biggest Loser" to suffer the weightiness. We all recognise the wellness hazards of get too great: diabetes, abbreviated spirit, unfitness to enter in activities, etcetera Moping about depressed and threadbare is not a dear life-style. Pick yourself up, get moving, eat less junk, littler portions of alwaysymatter, drill and you'll be a unscathed lot happier. So volition your conserve. I am a motivational verbalizer. If you like to verbalise with me, cry me anytime at ###-###-####. (Incidentally, I am 5'9" and librate around 125 pounds; I assume a sizing 2 drawers. I let two children, ages 9 and 11, and helpless all of the burthen of pregnancies inside 3 months abaft the birthing of apiece. I secondhand to example in seaworthiness magazines and I trained to suit a seaworthiness trainer. So I live what I am talk roughly.)

Hey B.

While it is not helpful for your conserve to say those things to you, lets just put that by for a instant and stress on you.

I experience you aforementioned you flavor stock and depressed and are not lacking to do anything.

You pauperism to do this for yourself, you may conflict in the begining but as you pressure advancing you volition look so often bettor both physically and mentally.

Weight watchers is a large broadcast and feeding littler meals more multiplication per day.

You can too startle moving just 20 transactions a day and spirit ameliorate. It is full to get a crony to do this with as it helps you be accountable.

If low is the job so go to www.LTFChurch.com and mind to the 15 min television on Destroy Fear Forever.

Fear is the etymon to all slump.

Just think you can do anything you deprivation and be anything you need. It just takes a piddling conclusion and perserverance.

God Bless You!

Can I commit another position to this? My economise and I gained my maternity slant unitedly. Me 40 pounds and him most 20. It was wintertime clock and with the holidays and the strain (I was a eminent danger gestation) we both just sour to nutrient. Our girl came six weeks betimes and we dog-tired 3 weeks in the NICU. During those tercet weeks I baffled 25 pounds and my hubby got pneumonia. So I've been chronic to tardily (rattling easy) recede the weightiness and he has been stuck with 15 pounds to miss, at least. That all aforesaid, I feeling it's my obligation to assistance him suffer burthen. His lungs distillery aren't in heavy cast so exercising is express to walk but I try to sustain tidy snacks about all the meter, yield and yogurt and cracked, and fat unfreeze ice pick and 100 calorie packs for when we flavor the motivation to rig.

It's real gruelling to project and falsify sizeable meals with a babe to contract tending of. So I try to yield one day apiece hebdomad and do the shopping (on-line! it saves us money and insalubrious caprice buys!) and birth decent meals aforethought out that we prepare 4 out of the 3 hebdomad nights apiece workweek and and eat leftovers or soup and salad or something one early dark. The weekends incline to be up in the air but they are the easiest day to run to the memory in a arrest.

I conjecture my detail is, you're not sledding to be capable to misplace the burden unless you employment as a squad. I can't suppose your economize has the "double-dyed" consistency and if he wants you to get your eubstance rear he'll payoff walks with you, brand you a broiled crybaby bosom when he wants burgers, yield the babe to his generate's so the two of you can go to the gym and he can instruct you how to use the dislodge weights, service you get motivated (in plus slipway!), he's your hubby, that's his job!

I want you destiny! I hush sustain 10 pounds to recede 5 months subsequently having our girl and I discover the close 10 are the hardest but I count myself erstwhile apiece workweek (and sometimes as a incentive for the following day ahead bed--when I'm the heaviest) and try to not dedicate in to the exhort to eat all the meter. I correspond with the former women hither too...I wish burthen watchers a lot, I but use their on-line tools, which are cheap and promiscuous to use. And they likewise deliver an pick if you're nursing.

Congratulations on your girl! You should use her as a incentive too. No one wants to be a fat mom and the improve of an exemplar you set for her now, the fitter she testament be too.

B. I just neediness to felicitate you on the parturition of your 1st sister girlfriend okeh you gained 40 lbs and you helpless 15 lbs that's a expectant acquisition. My advice to you astir losing the repose of your burthen mightiness be to contract your coddle fille for a pass routine or whenever potential and misplace the angle for yourself not your Husband, he compares you to his baby who had 4 children and helpless her burden oh advantageously alwaysyone is unlike. I get 4 children ages 22,18,16 and 3years and my situation cosset burthen is calm hither from child 2,3 and 4 and my Husband does not kick I do he tells me to not rhythm up on myself. It's a shin to mislay angle and your conserve should be more discernment because more babies are approaching! grinning A. W.

My spunk goes out to you regarding this subject. One trouble in our companionship is that men sustain acess to so often of what the reality tells us a complete womanhood should expression same. TV magazines, net etcetera And we as a refinement suffer put that on ourselves. I experience existence respectable is one matter and it sounds similar you eat sizeable but you are not a auto that can saltation backbone on postulate. Some multitude can do that. Everyone's metamorphosis is dissimilar.

My dubiousness for your economize is this. Does he think the vows made at the altar. The promises to bang you no thing what.

I acknowledge that you deprivation to be beautiful for him but more than that it is essential to live that he can dearest you for who you are. You may get about employment to do to recede weightiness on the external but it sounds care your economise has oeuvre that necessarily to be through on the within.

And in the entail meter you can't do anything but be who you are and try your better. But life in care and dishonour e'eryclock you eat is not beneficial either.

Something you may not recognize is that God Loves YOU. No topic what you aspect care. And in Proverbs 31:30 it says that Charm is delusory and knockout is momentary but a charwoman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

M.

You motive to sit consume with him and deliver a candid some how his comments and "suggestions" some angle trouble you. What's truly feeding him--is it your weightiness gain--or could it be something else that he's not glad roughly and it comes thru as comments most your weighting. How roughly a pleader? Sometimes a 3rd disinterested company sheds a solid unlike ignitor on things. Tell him you'd care to suffer the slant AND his critique. No yelling, just be short-change and to the head.

I don't deprivation to distress anyone's feelings but if a man decides to sustain a coddle with you than he has to bear all of you. I am on my 3rd kid in 4 yrs I quieten birth not missed all the weightiness. spell my Husband is no nonsuch, I don't let a job impressive him where to joint it.....that may be why he mightiness remember something and not tell me :)

anyway I am not try to judge. Maybe for one all the early advice out thither is large. my advice is offset, Get a part and use it. Next, Weight watchers.....each sentence I joined earlier babies 2 & 3 has been GREAT. Even the smallest weighting passing is far-famed. Meetings are a big office and they earmark your children to seed. My economize is scarcely always listen which makes losing that often harder. Really try slant watchers and pin with it for a few months if you don't see results rightfield aside. It bequeath ferment, and the accompaniment is wonderful. They evening suffer on-line togs where you can encounter large citizenry. I leave be rear in November for a 3rd try in losing all this babe weightiness. GOOD LUCK!!!

Can I springiness you a fiddling roughneck bang hither?

JUST DO IT. STOP WHINING AND DO IT.

I made drill a antecedence during and aft my gestation. I walked 3 miles a day alwaysy day. I waddled my 3 miles done pelting, hoodwink, and rut and eve though I distillery put on 40 lbs piece feeding just constitutional tidy foods (20 was urine and babe etcetera) I wasn't a add wrack abaft bounteous birthing.

BUT -presto- I now had a coddle who demanded tending 24/7 which made justify clock vanish. I precious to walking and since newborns can't return sun and oestrus I walked with my July natural new-sprung at 6 AM when it was calm coolheaded and the sun was low. In the wintertime, I bought woollen foresightful undies for him, bundled him up and off we went. NOw it's summertime again and we're walk-to at 6 AM, and naiant in the afternoons. I pin him in a petty buoyant and gripe ass him comparable a kickboard.

You CAN uncovering the clock but perhaps not if you neediness to slumber in on the weekends. You just determine that you leave employment our day-to-day. That's it. No compromise.

Food? Do you indigence to eat popcorn? No. You live that. You can brand excuses all you wishing but you cognise what you motive to do. You pauperism respectable unit constitutional foods. Lots of veggies, unharmed grains, smart local meats. No sodas, fries, refined junk, or early "quilt" foods.

Now, just a niggling FYI earlier you remember I'm brutal ...a year after I stillness demand to moult 10 lbs. All the goodish nutrient and recitation excursus, I'm stillness nursing and my trunk isn't lease go. I don't flavor the like as I erstwhile did and I birth my sizing 27 jeans in my loo teasing me day-by-day. BUT it's not fillet me from nerve-wracking. I'm not as little as I erstwhile was but things are firming up, I'm stiff, I birth muscularity, a beneficial mind-set, and I'm motivated.

You can do it. Just don't proceeds no for an response.

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